Announcement! Exciting NEW Focus in Eva’s Life Coaching practice!

Now just to be clear, Anyone with any issue they want to talk about can book on Eva’s calendar. Issues in life, like self sabotage, can keep us stuck and stagnate our life’s growth. You know, life is about growng emotonally and spiritually. Its about living in the present. Its about being content and peaceful no matter what life is presenting. If we are in a valley then let’s find ways to climb the next mountain. Maybe we need to learn some new skills or refresh old ones.

So, moving on. As I looked around me and listened intently to others, in this last year, I heard so many stories from women who are daughters caregiving their aging parents. Many times the parents have disbilities from mobility issues to alzheimers and dementia to just grouchy as they haven’t fulfilled their dreams and they are regretting and maybe even grieving things or people in their lives. Oftentimes their partner of many years has passed on and the one left behind feels so lost, confused, frightened, angry and so much more. Guess what, sometimes the daughter caregiver may get the blast of all the parents emotions. The senior may need to talk for hours about it, or maybe will choose not to talk about it at all. We all grieve in our own way. Caregiving your parents is a complicated and emotional journey.

My focus is on women, the daughters of aging parents, because usually the brunt of the care and organizing so much, is left to the women in a family. Do you know that seniors are, right now, the largest population in the world? STATS Canada showed me that tidbit. So women in the age group of 42 to 64 are busy with children, husbands, career and their aging parents. The expectation often is that she can keep doing all she used to do and just add the aging parent to her life tasks. She may be even angry to be in this situation. Guilt pours in for even having that thought. Women are often frustrated trying to have some balance in life and trying to keep all these activities in the air – just like a clown in the circus who balances balls in the air…never dropping even one. A full time job at home and a part time job caregiving, and then there is the full time actual job called a career. This may be what is held back as there are only so many hours in any day. This may be the area that suffers.

Remember your mother carried you for 9 months and brought you into this world. Then she nurtured you and taught you how to live in this world and be an upstandng citizen. Family gatherings, birthday parties and Christmas celebrations were probably mainly her event planning. Now she needs you. She really needs you.

Each situation is totally different. No family is the same, We are all unique.

The reason I am citing the daughter of the aging parent is because she is often the silent sibling carrying a heavy load. A woman who looses herself as many times this journey goes on for years. Aging seniors are living far longer than they once did.

My situation was a caregiver from afar. There were 3,000 miles between my parents and myself when they aged. My sister was the main caregiver. She did a wonderful job. My part was supporting them emotionally and maybe that is where I honed my online skills. I phoned them on Sundays- always and oftener if something was going on where I needed to be more present. I sent care packages especially to mom who was very creative. As she got older she liked doing crossword puzzles and Word games and loved playing bingo. In assisted living she was quite happy and appreciative of all who helped her. My parents were 92 and 96 years old when they passed on. I cherish all the years they were in my life and I think of them often. I also remember sometimes when I just didn’t know how to talk for hours with them and always knowing I had to find things to ask and discuss to put in the time. As I already said, this journey is not an easy one but it is a rewarding one when we learn how to stay afloat and enjoy the parents who loved us so much.

So in answer to the question you may have asked, why did Eva decide to work now with daughters of aging parents? I think I have answered that. But to summarize, I think the daughters sometimes are taken for granted. Maybe they even feel they are unseen.

This is now September and it is harvest time. My father and mother were farmers in Ontario. That makes me a farmers daughter and I might say I am proud to be a farmers daughter. Very glad for the farm where I was raised. I became a city girl at age 20 and lived in 8 cities so far in my life. Mom and Dad continued to farm until they retired at around 60 years of age. Dad took over the farm at just 10 years old. My grandfather was a soldier in WW1 and came back a different man than when he left.

He couldn’t work. I believe he had PTSD. So my father, an only son, had to give up his desire to be a policeman and in stead he had to keep the farm going.

So I hope my website is welcomng to all and that Daughters of aging parents will find it encouraging and welcoming. For those who need a little more help then please book into my calendar on site so we can chat.. And have a look at the products I chose to endorse for you. Hopefully this can become a one stop shop. Let me know if I can help in anyway. I am still building the store so if sparse in areas, I am working hard on it.

I am featuring right now 2 products, a treadmill that is light and easy to store and a resting mat to help you possibly sleep better and enjoy life just a little bit more. These both are products for the parent and the daughter to use. Don’t forget to sign up for my email list where we can STAY IN TOUCH! Visit www.makelifehappen.online…explore..much more to come. Eva’s reading Room Shop is being developed. Waiting for a favorite store to hop on board.

I will leave you with a poem. I do not know who wrote it.

A Harvest Poem

Call on the Villagers, sharpen the tools.

don’t forget to sign up for my email list where we can stY IN TOUCH!

The vine is done, the fruit is full.

All are ready to make the snip and cut.

Move with precision and fill the carts.

The seasons battles have been won.

Salute the farmer who has victory over

the weather extremes.

BRAVO!

Your work is done.

Now say ‘BON voyage’ to the crop.

We look forward to the sweet results of your labour

in years to come.

but Madame and Messieurs you cannot rest!

You must start it all again so Bon Courage

and Good luck.